Spread Your Legs and Make a Choice

While viewing my beloved Jon & Kate + 8 I see this commercial for a new show coming a little too close for comfort: The Secret Life of a Soccer Mom. Sigh... now I feel the need to vomit. Seriously, humanity, what is the deal?

For some time now I have been frustrated with the bum rap of which many children are on the receiving end and like many things in our culture and society, this shit is out of hand. I think it's horribly sad that we have reached the point where a woman going to her friends and/or family and sputtering the words "I am pregnant" has to be met with a pause in which to determine if this is good or bad news (let's not include the obvious exceptions to this rule, we live in reality, not up our asses). This should always be good news, but thanks to overpopulation, careless fucking & bed-hopping, children trying to live the lives of adults and countless other reasons why having a baby is a bad reason (but it happens anyway) in our fucked up society, this is also unavoidable. Tragic.

There used to be a time, no, not a perfect time, but a time where life was precious and the renewing of itself was a joyous event. This was also in a time where little options and knowledge were available. However, today we are not without options or power in life and I'm just a tad weary of the attitude that you don't have to stick by your choices and fuck this and fuck that do whatever the fuck you want we'll find a way around it, learn no lessons, don't bother with thinking about the consequences of shit. Mankind adores finding new ways to exist outside of nature, this also includes inventing ways to wriggle out of your choices and/or justify being a flake.

This is where we come to what bothers me about this damn show. In our modern world we know a woman is capable of pretty much anything, and many acknowledge (if they were not already aware of the fact) they can have sex, vote, build a career, collect little gold-digging boys or girls of her own, dance for money or in some places sell her body and make a good living from it... legally, like it or not. Once again, there was a time when it was thought that women could only keep house and pop out babies... an imperfect time that I was pretty sure we were all aware of had come and gone (could be minority sense again). So, exactly where does this show get off and who are these bitches and why are they being encouraged???

When I saw this commercial only one question came to mind and I was then presented with this question when I brought it to the attention of J (the point of it being): If your life plan did not include devoting your time to raising a family, why did you fucking have children? Get knowledge from parents, video games, books, magazines, reality shows, friends, bathroom walls, whatever but by now are we not aware that things exist such as condoms, abortions, adoption, or abstinence even? I mean for goodness sake you can even drop off your baby at a police station, firehouse or church in the middle of the night and walk away if you were so inclined. Let's say you can't do any of these things because... because DUH, all right, congratulations on bringing someone who never asked to exist into your miserable ass world. How about now taking responsibility for your choice and doing what is required of a parent: live for that child and put it's needs before yours and raise it to be the best whatever it can be. Somehow, many humans seem to have lost this animal instinct and how fair is that to the child? "Yes, sweetheart, you're cool and all but I'd much rather be running my very own male brothel on a far-off island."

I never understood the appeal of having a child when you didn't want it... what is that? J wants to know where the show for men who wanted to pursue their dreams has run off to and I just want to know why once again people are being awarded for making poor choices. Hey TLC, instead of mimicking the government and giving special attention to some random woman who popped out a baby (as opposed to maybe awarding those come tax time for not upping our over-populated planet), how about a show where a young person who has sacrificed their own lives to basically raise their younger siblings because their parent(s), so distraught over the fact that they had kids and never wanted them, is off fucking up? How about a show for a person who is not living up to their potential (artistically or academically or what have you) because their family simply can't afford it or they have no family to encourage and support them? And what about a show where the many people who put love and/or family on hold (YES this, too, can be a downside) to earn degrees, perhaps even to ensure a better quality of life for the family they hope to some day build (or even for their own personal enrichment), and to this day are still unemployed or busting their asses through lower-paying jobs to fulfill their responsibilities? Soccer moms are usually on the higher-end of the stay-at-home mom scale, living in the suburbs, driving mini-vans and can actually afford gas money to drive their kids to soccer where they can also afford the uniform and other expenses. You know how many moms ride the bus, need to work and in some cases still go to school? Don't ask me to feel sorry for these bitches.

Enough American Idol & Jerry Springer America. Might we move on to better things and more respectable role models? Can we please do some real good and award those who struggled to make better, sometimes harder choices? Also, can we stop raising children as children would, creating these little monsters that no one likes to be around? It upsets me when I can look at the way a child is behaving or speaking and feel no remorse in thinking (s)he's an asshole. (This rant also brings attention to the fact that maybe having less unwanted children around would make us see their innocence, give us time to really care for those that are around as we should and appreciate them more). And maybe we need to stop falling for the helpless mother routine, not all pregnant women fit this description; sadly, many women are trying to earn another monthly check, force their way into the life of a man who does not want them (good luck with that, ladies), get attention or view their baby as a fun and expensive toy to play with until it seems like work, never stopping to think (as J pointed out:) it is not returnable.

Why should choosing to raise a family be the worst choice a person can possibly make? So much to the point they are pitied and looked down upon? And if you want both, you want two lives, go ahead, work at them both, a person can do anything they put their mind to.

Like a good friend, TLC, I enjoy your company and entertainment but I just plain don't like this new friend you've made. As your friend, TLC, I advise you stick to teaching and encouraging better things not... don't worry about the choices you make, go ahead and insult your family, magically things will happen and you get to be on TV.